Monday, January 7, 2013

Don't sweat the small stuff?

I can't believe we had our first real "Discussion" and I was so worried about it. I truly need to stop worrying about the small stuff and focus on the big picture. I sometimes think Vic must think I am crazy. He did throw a loop hole in my plan of attack when on Saturday he said lets chat now  Um I am a planner I have to have an agenda just to get out the door on time, whatever is this man thinking- I think this was preplanned he knows me too well. So out comes my very little voice that says:
Do you have a topic in mind? I thought we were planning on doing this in the morning!!!!! and out comes- YES EXPECTATIONS
I mean really he wants to know my expectations about what, from him, or dear I didn't see that one coming. As the mind has an out of body experience- I mean really he said that (breath Cathie breath).
Fear not my blogger friends no ambulance was called- I did have some thoughts on the subject and we did something amazing we Talked and talked some more and then we talked again the next day just like we planned. It was wonderful and now I feel like this

Sometimes life can take some amazing turns and I do believe that our life is turning in the right directions with Dd and letting my Vic be all that he should have always been. We now will chat every Sunday discuss the good the bad and the ugly cause she is still perched on my shoulder and needs a good knock once in awhile and he is just the man to put me in my place- Who Knew-



  1. I love to hear of people starting their DD dynamic by implementing Sit Down Discussions from the beginning! You're probably going to hear many times over the next few months, that Communication is one of the keys to a successful DD relationship. I can say from experience that having scheduled DD focused discussions is the best way to start :)

  2. Communication & being clear about our expectations of each other is incredibly healthy :)

  3. Hey Cathie - So happy to hear that you two are communicating so well. Setting expectations? Very good one - keeps misunderstandings to a minimum. :) Keep up the good work!


  4. Well Cathie, if you've been reading my posts you'll know all about my problems with communication. It took a lot to clear the air of past regrets, guilt and resentment - but we did it. And while there are no spankings on the horizon, Mr BB has consistently told me that a good foundation is better than rushing in half-cocked. (Does that make sense?) Everyone is different and we need to find out what suits us best as couples. So far this week I am feeling lighter and more relaxed than I have for a very long time. And I'm suspecting you are too. When you both know what you expect from each other, life is much more comfortable all round. Well done you!

    Hugs, Ami

  5. It's kinda nice when they take the reins isn't it? Exactly knew?

  6. We just started SitDDs. They really are great aren't they!? Congrats :)